Archive for 'Safe & Sexy'
To the Girl in EveryWoman
8 October 2007
I saw a girl at the mall on a date. She was about sixteen and she was wearing mauve-blue lace undies over her pajamas.
I know this because a couple of inches of lace showed above the flannel tartan, baggy-legged jim-jams that sat several inches below her pierced belly button.
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Girl Chat
26 June 2007
Do you place more importance on sex when it is available or when it isn’t available?
I notice when I get together with my singleton girlfriends, versus the coupled girlfriends, the singletons talk about sex or the lack thereof, with more frequency than the coupled girlfriends.
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Biological Imperative
21 May 2007
Just because we girls can get pregnant, does that mean we have to have babies?!
This is a rhetorical question, one that I considered with disdain after I saw the new-release movie, Waitress.
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The Game of Flirting
17 May 2007
Recently I heard an Italian woman speak on “The Art of Love,” but what I mainly heard her talking about was flirting as a lost art.
“Political correctness in the U.S. has discouraged flirting between the sexes,” she said. I also heard her say something to the effect of, “And now that flirting as play has been rejected, casual sex as play is the new game.”
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Married and Bi
7 May 2007
I have several gay men friends who keep me informed about gay culture. This is a good thing otherwise I’d be a total ignoramus apropos other ways of being in the world.
Until we’re prompted to think about it, we can easily overlook or ignore the fact that human sexuality is not as simple as we’d like to believe. Appropriately, my gay mates keep me thinking.
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March Forward
12 March 2007
You know what I love about the northern hemisphere - namely living in the middle of America squished up against the Rocky Mountains - the seasonal extremes.
A few weeks ago Boulder resembled a frozen tundra scene from Dr. Zhivago, and now, with the early advent of daylight saving, we’re in the throws of spring, i.e. the snow has melted, the temperature is warmer, and there’s thawing dog shit everywhere.
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New Year Boobs
8 January 2007
I had a mammogram last week.
Yep, started out the New Year waiting anxiously in “Radiography” browsing out-of-date mags and watching a woman next to me knit. She must have been nervous too.
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Global Gasm
18 December 2006
This year’s winter Solstice, Friday December 22nd, is shaping up to be a root’n toot’n sexy one!
And why is the shortest day - the day proclaimed by ancient peoples as the day that marks the return of the sun and thus a turning point in the calendar - associated this year with sex?
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Instant Sex: False Intimacy
6 November 2006
Trundling down the personal protection aisle at the grocery store, I passed three girls standing in front of the condoms having a frank discussion about sex.
“Just because you have sex doesn’t mean you love, or have any feelings for the person you’re having sex with,” said one of the girls.
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Girl Cats and Bells
18 September 2006
My neighbor’s cat caught a bird this morning. I didn’t know whether to yell at her for being bad, or marvel at her hunting skill. I didn’t do either.
I took the still live bird from the cat’s mouth and cradled it in my hand while I called the local small animal and bird shelter. The volunteer who answered the phone told me to put the bird in a dark box. “Don’t hold it,” she said. “You’re a predator, you’ll alarm it.”
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